Rock-A-Bye-Toddler

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When one is raising a toddler they quickly learn the vital importance of well-established routines and predictable rituals. We’ve been a blessed family because our daughter has always slept through the night, however, due to our busy lifestyle it’s been hard to put a bedtime routine into place. When our daughter is tired she falls asleep. It’s a fairly simple and effortless plan really. (One that was far more effective in infancy than it is now)

Lately, she has been pushing the limits in many areas. She is figuring out how much she can get away with and if left to fend for herself she would live on chips, cheese, and PBSkids. As parents this phase has been both rewarding as we watch our daughter gain a little bit more independence everyday and exhausting as we seem to deal with daily meltdowns and bad moods.

We are beginning to focus our time and energy into forming a more strict bedtime routine and enforcing a specific time for putting our daughter to bed. The following are the Top 5 tactics we have tried for the bedtime routine:

Goal Bedtime: 9:30pm *We are hoping to lower this time eventually, but she is still used to a pretty late bedtime most evenings so this is still a limiting time to begin with.

1. Bath time: At around 8pm bath time begins. I have even used a little bit of the lavender essential oils in the bath to help with relaxing her.

2. Snack: To avoid bed wetting incidents we have been trying to limit drinking in the evenings, but to help her sleep more soundly we have allowed our daughter a small snack right after bath time.

3. Reading time: Shortly after bath time I allow my daughter to select two books and we cuddle and read together. Lately, she has been expressing a huge interest in reading and is able to sit through longer readings. Occasionally she asks questions and responds to the stories, but more often than not she sits silently in a trance taking in every word and illustration.

4. NO ELECTRONICS after the routine begins: This is a crucial piece for the winding down process. Our daughter loves to independently select her favorite programs using the iPad, however, viewing these shows and using electronic devices is definitely counter productive to creating a sleepy atmosphere. We’ve learned the hard way and after many late nights fighting with her about electronics that we have to set limits which include not using electronic devices before bed.

5. NO LIGHTS ON after the routine begins: Almost as crucial as eliminating electronics is the shutting off of all lights and creating a dark and night-like atmosphere. Since infancy our daughter has responded well to darkness and is much easier to usher in to sleep when the surroundings are dark.

As always I am admitting to my ignorance when it comes to motherhood. There are a lot of lessons I am learning with my first child. I know now that with any additional children we may have that setting a more rigid plan for bedtime and routines will be a top priority from a very young age. It’s so important to regularly make time as a couple without the distraction of children and when your children stay up too late not only are you exhausted as the parent, but you get less of the imperative “mom and dad time.”

This is a fairly new goal in our household. I would love to hear from veteran mom’s out there. What type of routines have you established for bedtime? What works? What doesn’t?

Advice and positive comments are always welcome and appreciated!

When the Grading Gets Tough…

None of my undergrad study could have formally prepared me for the daunting task of essay grading in a timely manner. I have been a bit of a blogging slacker over the past few days as my school post-assessment scores for the school year are due this week and have thus taken over my life. There are so many aspects of teaching which I deeply love, however, I’ve developed a bit of a loathe/hate relationship with grading.

Usually, I am so good about keeping my work and home separate, but there is no escape for bringing work home when you have less than a week to grade 110 essays. It also doesn’t help that I’m a bit of an over-thinker. What many teachers could probably grade in two minutes I take ten. Each precious word is a morsel from the mind of one of my budding students and I hate giving those thoughts any less than my full attention and concentration.

If you haven’t guessed I am in a bit of distraction mode. As I sit here updating you on my life I can feel the glare of the twenty essays that remain unread. I’ve created a list of ten things I would rather be doing. If doing the laundry exceeds grading on that list you know that I must harbor a strong dislike toward that activity.

The rubric terms have begun to run together. My hair has been twirled into near dreadlocks. My bright-colored grading pen is beginning to acquire bite marks. I’m sitting amongst an audience of notebook paper. These are symptoms of my excessive concentration. Twenty more to go. I can do this!

Other teachers–how do you beat the insanity undoubtedly associated with essay grading? I’m in desperate need of advice, and a second wind of motivation.

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Liebster Award

A couple of weeks ago I was humbled to accept yet another award for my blog! I put off accepting the award until I was able to locate a few new recipients to nominate. After some blog browsing and new subscriptions I finally feel equipped to genuinely nominate some new up and coming blogs as well as introduce you to some of my personal favorites.

So…without further adieu, let the awarding begin…

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The Official Rules Of The Liebster Award

If you have been nominated for The Liebster Award AND YOU CHOOSE TO ACCEPT IT, write a blog post about the Liebster award in which you:

1. thank the person who nominated you, and post a link to their blog on your blog.

2. display the award on your blog — by including it in your post and/or displaying it using a “widget” or a “gadget”. (Note that the best way to do this is to save the image to your own computer and then upload it to your blog post.)

3. answer 11 questions about yourself, which will be provided to you by the person who nominated you.

4. nominate 5 – 11 blogs that you feel deserve the award, who have a less than 1000 followers. (Note that you can always ask the blog owner this since not all blogs display a widget that lets the readers know this information!)

5. create a new list of questions for the blogger to answer.

6. list these rules in your post (You can copy and paste from here.) Once you have written and published it, you then have to:

7. Inform the people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster award and provide a link for them to your post so that they can learn about it (they might not have ever heard of it!)

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I would first like to thank Anna from Millennial Creativity for nominating me for this award. Her blog is so fun and if you like some of the ideas behind my posts please check out her blog as well. She is creative and often writes on creative topics and reflections.

Next, I must answer the following questions about myself:

1. Who’s your role model?

I have many role models in my life. I look up to different people for different things, but my ultimate role model is Jesus. There are a lot of people I try to gain wisdom from, but at the end of the day the one person who I try to emulate is the only one who lived a perfect, sinless, and fulfilled life.

2. What topics are most fun for you to blog about?

I love my current blog series The Date Jar. This series is particularly fun because it involves spending quality family time together and trying new experiences. If you pay attention just about every post in this series involves partaking in coffee and food (two things near and dear to my heart). It’s really fun to take part in the activities and the comments and suggestions I receive from other bloggers are fun as well.

3. If you could visit any other country / region, where would you go, and why?

I would love to visit Italy. Actually to be specific a Mediterranean Cruise sounds like about the most appealing adventure to me. I would love to visit Italy and maybe cruise down to Greece. I’ve always been fascinated with Italy and Italian food, but as I am also a history teacher I really would like to see Rome.

4. Do you have a creative space in which you work?

I wish. My workspace is wherever I can get away in my home for a few minutes. Sometimes I blog in my bedroom, sometimes in the home office, and other times I hide away for a few minutes in the bathroom. Alone time is hard to come by for me so I take advantage of whatever setting is provided daily. A goal of mine this summer is to transform our spare bedroom into a more productive and creative work space, but it isn’t my highest priority. For now, it’s working for me.

5. Complete this sentence: Most people would be surprised to find out that I…

ate five cupcakes yesterday :)

6. What is one thing you hope to do to improve your blog over the next year?

I am currently working on a project where I interview some mothers from all walks of life. I’m really excited to get this series published because all of the stories that are lined up deal with mom’s who have overcome various struggles and who I find to be inspirational. I also plan to hone in more on the strengths of my blog. After some solid research I’ve begun to make plans moving forward about post topics and I really plan to focus this summer on fine-tuning my voice as a blogger.

7. How do you wind down and relax in the evenings before bed?

Netflix. Since I was pregnant in 2012, my husband and I have been binge Netflixers (yeah, I created a word. You know you use it too!) We get hooked on a show and watch an episode or two every night until we finish the series.

8. What’s your “Achilles’ heel” when it comes to blogging?

My Achilles heel would have to be my lack of technology experience/knowledge. I am not the best with technology and I’m working on not letting that stand in my way! I’m learning a lot.

9. Biggest pet peeve?

My biggest pet peeve is constant negativity. Positivity does not come naturally to me. I am, by nature, a critical person; however,  I have spent a lot of time to create a positive mindset and when I get around people who are always negativity it drives me crazy. Yes, it takes effort to be positive sometimes, but a glass-half-full mentality is so much more productive and healthy compared to a doomsday mentality.

10. If you could have any superpower, what would you be able to do?

Teleportation. I wish that my family didn’t have to be split by a giant ocean. I wish my husband could see his family and friends more often. Sometimes we talk about how awesome it would be if we could just show up for dinner in England every now and again.

11. My advice to other new bloggers:

Stay positive. I haven’t been blogging for long, but the positive feedback and my new outlook on areas of my life have been worth it. I don’t do it for the view numbers or statistics, but it is nice to know that people all over the world are able to read my posts and share in life with me. If you get too focused on “getting big” or your popularity it will be very difficult to maintain a positive attitude when it comes to blogging. Write about something that inspires you to keep going and don’t be afraid to take risks.

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The blogs I would like to nominate for this award are:

Witty’N’Pretty

Real Mom of Long Island

Simple Provisions

Parenting and Stuff

JJ’s Ways

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Nominees, please answer the following questions:

1. In one sentence capture the essence of your blog.

2. Who is your target audience?

3. Name three things you have learned since you began blogging.

4. Why did you decide to start a blog?

5. How do you incorporate social media in your blog?

6. What is your dream job?

7. Where do you see yourself in five years?

8. What two personal goals have you set for yourself?

9. What two blog goals have you set for your blog?

10. What motivates you to write?

11. What other hobbies, besides blogging, do you enjoy?

Please take some time to visit the blogs awarded above.

The Date Jar: Week 6 (Family Movie Date)

My favorite part about this Date Jar series is the emphasis it has put on spending more quality time with my family. For as young as a family as we are we have quite a full schedule. It would be extremely easy for us to go several weeks at a time without doing much more than watching television on the couch as a family, but this series has gotten us to plan fun, inexpensive ventures and provided us opportunities to experience some of the fun and excitement that the Columbus area has to offer. This week our destination: Lancaster, Ohio.

My husband has begun a ministry opportunity on Saturday mornings. He is currently renting out a gym in Circleville, Ohio and holding one-hour training sessions for aspiring basketball players of all ages. He is a trained and professional basketball trainer and ball-handler. I am so proud of all of his accomplishments in both the UK and USA. Over the next few weeks he has some BIG opportunities coming up, and if you stay tuned I will soon be releasing information about a television program he is filming in New York City in a couple of weeks.

(PS-if you are interested in getting involved or having my husband work with your kids please send me a comment or email and I will get you more information)

This Saturday morning he was training ten kids during his session and my daughter and I were getting dolled up at our favorite hair salon. I love my stylist. About a year ago I started going to a new stylist near our home. She is young and fashionable and a super inspiring mother. Whenever I am getting my hair done we swap stories about our kids and I love it. Not many people in my day-to-day life have toddlers and so I look forward to my monthly hair appointments not just because my hair needs regular maintenance, but because my stylist is AMAZING. This week she even did a cute curl-style because she knew we had a date night planned. I loved it and had to photograph it, because let’s be real I could never make it look this good!

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After the hair appointment and basketball training session were complete we met at the home-base had a quick lunch before embarking on our family date for the week.

Over the past few weeks I have seen several commercials and trailers for the newest cartoon craze, Home. It looked adorable and with Rihanna and Jim Parsons as the voices of for the main characters I was intrigued. We showed the trailer to our daughter on the iPad to gauge her interest level and she could not stop laughing at the main character, Oh. We planned the movie to be the climax of our family date, but what date night is complete without a first a good meal?

I’m a high school teacher and it was also prom night so in an attempt to avoid the traffic, and students, associated with prom we decided to travel outside of our usual destination routine to a small town south east of Columbus, Lancaster. As always, I used my iPhone to locate some of the smalltown gems and favorites to explore in the area. We first ended up getting a wonderful cup of coffee at the SquareSeven shop in the Art and Clay On Main.

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As you can tell from the photo I took above this place was a charming, unique spot. The coffee was delicious and I enjoyed browsing the arts and crafts available for purchase. They also have shelves of pre-made ceramics that you can paint, heat, and pick up at a later date once they are dry. If I had planned things a little better I would have secured us an opportunity to get crafty, but I guess this just means we will have to return another time. The coffee was superb and one thing I really liked about the place is that they hire through a partnership with the Fairfield County Developmental Disabilities. They also offer art therapy classes. It’s a new favorite.

Next, on our list of activities was a trip to the River Valley mall. Really, the mall trip was to buy some time and allow my daughter a chance to release her energy in the mall play area prior to the movie. In my last post I talked about running into a student and her mother at the mall. Check out  “We All Need a Little Encouraging” for details about this meaningful encounter.

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After over half an hour of play and shopping it was off to dinner. We tried a local spot for dinner. Ale House 1890 on Main Street in Lancaster was awesome! Just like the Art and Clay on Main, the Ale House 1890 was charming and had the appeal of an old British Pub, which my husband appreciated. I ordered a chicken sandwich and green beans and shared it with my daughter. DELICIOUS!

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After dinner, it was finally time for the movie to start. We purchased our ticket at the new Cinemark Theatre in Lancaster and entered into the beautiful world of cinema magic. As soon as we entered through the double doors my daughter spotted the popcorn machine. As much as I know I didn’t need a bag of popcorn I also knew that her movie experience would not be complete without the warm, crunchy, buttery goodness of fresh Orville Redenbacher popcorn. We purchased our popcorn and tickets and headed into the theatre where Home was being shown.

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From the first preview to the final moments of the movie my daughter was in a trance. She was the best behaved I have ever seen her and she followed the plot line well for only being two and a half. Rarely, did she even speak throughout the movie except to ask questions for clarification. She laughed at appropriate times, and at the end when Oh was in danger she was visiblly nervous and shouted, “Oh, no!” Spolier Alert: At the end of the movie she had the whole theatre laughing when she yelled, “He saved the day!” Where does she learn these catch phrases?

In the end it was a perfect day as a family. I love watching my daughter experience things and enjoy them the way she did this movie. We each had something we particularly enjoyed during this day, and we left the theatre with all three of us exhausted. Taking time as family to intentionally have fun and make memories has been such a rewarding experience. We’re creating traditions and I love it.

Thanks for supporting my Date Jar series. See you in week 7 :)

We All Need a Little Encouraging

Photo Credit: http://epitec.com/thankfulness/

With less than seven weeks before the long awaited summer vacation my ambition is beginning to wane. I look at the calendar of end-of-year testing and I cannot shake the daunting feeling that my valuable instructional time as a teacher is coming to a close. Before long, testing mode will begin and I’m struggling with finding time to fit in all of the lessons yet to be done. Additionally,  the beautiful sunshine and temperatures outside make it really hard to stay motivated. But over the past few days God has thrown me a reminder that I am currently doing what I’m supposed to do and that I’m where I am supposed to be.

Over the weekend while enjoying my family date for the week (more on this in an upcoming post) I ran into a current student and her mother. We were at a mall, and my daughter was playing in every parent’s worst nightmare, the germ-infested play area. From a seat on the perimeter of the playground I caught a glimpse of this student. Let’s be real for a second- I teach ninth grade students. More often than not when I see a student in public they tend to avoid eye contact and act as though I don’t exist. Most of the time that doesn’t bother me one bit, but this student’s reaction was so encouraging. I saw her motion to her mother in my direction and I read her lips as she said, “There’s Mrs. Sisley.”

Her mother could have nodded and continued her parade from store to store. She was a busy shopper with an armful of bags toting newly purchased goods. But her mother’s reaction was more surprising than her daughter’s. The woman left her b-line to the next shop and came right up to the play area. At first, I was astounded to see her approaching me, but when her arms went out to embrace me I was completely taken aback.

I maybe should have explained that a few months back this particular student had struggled with a personal battle and as a member of the FCA which I advise she came to me in need of some guidance. I talked with her as much as I could about what was going on and then pointed her to some of the student leaders of FCA to help her out on a deeper level than I really could as a teacher. I’ve prayed for her often and she updates me on the situation as well. She is a student I have grown close to and whom I enjoy very much. She has grown so much this year and it is a blessing as a teacher to see students grow both in and out of the classroom as I have witnessed with this particular student.

Anyway, the mother hugged me right in the middle of the mall. Yes, I’m sure it caused a little bit of a scene, but it touched me nonetheless. As she was hugging me she said, “You will never know how much you mean to me and my family.” We both teared up. I realized then that my impact is so much bigger than I thought. I had never met this woman, but my influence had reached her. I am so thankful for this encouraging reminder that God has placed me in a position to directly influence my community. It isn’t just the students I’m impacting…it is whole families and groups of people. This was such a humbling experience as well. God is taking me (someone who has my own struggles) and is using me despite my struggles to positively infect my world.

This experience got me thinking. I’m no different than any other teacher. All of us works hard to be positive role models and change the world (or at the very least change our students). Sometimes this can be a thankless job. Luckily, very few of us are into teaching for recognition. It’s not necessarily that students take us for granted, but it ends up that students tend not to be as expressive as they should. They may talk about their favorite teachers at home or with their friends, but rarely do they show their appreciation directly to their teachers. So, today I asked my English students to write 1-3 paragraphs naming and describing a teacher who made a difference in their lives. After I checked their work they were to give their writing to the teacher whom they chose as their subject. My thinking is that sometimes it is nice to get that letter of gratitude or thankfulness.

In closing, I want to encourage you, readers, to remember that your influence reaches far beyond what is seen. Sometimes people spread their kind words and thoughts about you and it never returns. Just because the “thanks” isn’t heard doesn’t mean that it isn’t there. I also encourage you to take some time to thank someone that has had a big influence in your life.

Fiction: An Untitled Teaser

The following is the first chapter of a manuscript I’ve been working on. The story is developed way beyond what is published below, but I’d love to hear what you think about this teaser. 

He had been here over fifty times before. This journey had been made once a week for over one year. The path between his shelter on Third Street and Saint Mary’s Church basement had become second nature to him. Kurt Robinson had walked this way in the frigid snow, pouring rain, and glistening sunshine; however, no trek had been quite as glorious and memorable as today’s. It was May 15th and Kurt had now been sober for one year.

Living on the streets made this clean up difficult for Kurt. Previously alcohol had been his one true escape from the reality of his homeless situation. It had helped him to forget his surroundings, failures, and past. Most of all his loneliness was never more apparent to him then when he was standing on a dark city street emptying his stomach of its intoxicating contents. There were various times during his days of drinking where he had woken up in an unfamiliar part of town with foreign buildings and faces. Times like those left Kurt wondering how he was still alive, and why he had chosen this life over the one he had left behind.

Despite his numerous dark and trying hours, Kurt could now proclaim victory over his vice with the triumph of hitting this major milestone. As the sun hid behind the highest cloud, Kurt approached the heavy oak door at the back entrance of Saint Mary’s Church. The quaint church was settled into one of the city’s poorest blocks amid decaying brick houses and vacant duplexes. With one of the only basketball courts in that section of the city, rough young kids played pick-up games at all hours in the back lot.

As he pulled open the heavy doors, Kurt was overwhelmed by the familiar smell that greeted him as if it had been locked up inside the church waiting to escape. The smell was a mix between incense and mothballs. The lighting in the back corridor was dim, but the light was protruding from the doorway to the stairs in the basement. Kurt walked toward the light then made his way down the stairs into the basement. Six people had already gathered and were congregated around the refreshment table in the far east corner of the Fellowship Hall.

“Kurt! How was your week, man?” His sponsor, Ron welcomed Kurt’s arrival. Kurt nodded acknowledging the address and moved toward the table furnishing iced tea and water alongside styrofoam cups. Ron was an outgoing and philanthropic sponsor. He had been there for Kurt during his darkest hours of temptation. In a way, Ron’s own story of transformation proved to Kurt that there was hope. Hope to overcome addiction. Hope to achieve dreams. Most importantly, hope to get off of Chicago’s streets.

Outside of the support group, Ron was a computer programmer at a very successful software development company. He was extremely intelligent and often discussed his career throughout support meetings. Had Ron been around in the 1970’s, Kurt was sure he would have been a part of the hippie movement. This opinion was based on several of Ron’s passions and Kurt’s observations. Ron was one who grew untamed dark facial hair, was constantly sporting flannel tops, and was dedicated to charity and service.

Although Ron was only thirty years old, he was wise beyond his years. That’s what overcoming addiction does to you. Kurt always found hope in the fact that his sponsor could sympathize with him. He had faced his own addictions and achieved victory. If this journey had taught Kurt anything it was appreciation for others. He had a deep appreciation for his always-loyal sponsor, Ron.

As Ron approached Kurt in the church basement, Kurt noticed a new attendee following close behind.

“Carlos, this is Kurt. Today is his one year rebirth day. We are all so proud of him here. He’s come a long way.” Ron put a friendly arm around Kurt’s shoulder as Kurt nodded at the newly sober Carlos.

Carlos extended a firm hand forward to shake with Kurt. His dark eyes sunken into his caramel-colored skin proved to Kurt that Carlos was still dealing with the physical effects of addiction.

“Congrats, man. I’m sure you have a bunch of people who are proud.” Carlos muttered in a rich Cuban accent. This statement hit Kurt like razor blades to the heart. He couldn’t think of one person outside of the support group who even cared enough to ask about Kurt’s progress.

After several minutes of small talk around the petite refreshment table Kurt had learned about Carlos’ background. Carlos came from an immigrant family. They had migrated from Cuba during the reign of Fidel Castro. He had become a citizen of the United States ten years ago, but struggled to support his family without formal American education. He had learned much of the construction trade from his own father, but the economy was bad and steady work in the construction business was hard to come by. He had once juggled several part-time jobs at a time to support his family.

Carlos had a heavy build, caramel-colored skin and dark espresso eyes. His English was magnificent for someone who migrated later in life as Carlos had done. He seemed nice enough to Kurt; however, Kurt knew that the grip of addiction could ruin any life no matter how good or bad. Being a long time member of the program Kurt knew not to pry into the events that had led to Carlos’ dependency on alcohol or its effects on the family that Carlos had worked so hard to support. He would allow Carlos to reveal his life piece by piece, just as Ron had done for him over the past year.

It was easy to keep to himself and cling to his own story like a life raft: not wanting to let go. Only he could completely understand his choices and his past. It took strength to finally open up at the support group and reveal his empty and lonely life.

Along the way he had made some friends, though very few were still a part of the group. Some had succumb to relapses while others had completed their court-ordered number of appearances and then disappeared. None had sustained sobriety to the level that Kurt now had reached. That’s what made today such an anticipated milestone to Kurt. He had made his commitment and in spite of physical and emotional trials he had reached his goal of twelve months sober.

Sitting down to commence the meeting, Kurt reflected to himself on his vivid transformation over the past fifty-two weeks. He recalled memories of himself one year younger walking into this very church basement for the first time in his life with nothing but the clothes on his back to his name. He was lonely and empty, but ready to rid himself of the monster he had created. Although he had progressed little in the area of possessions that year, he had gained inspiration and confidence in his ability to take back control of his life. He was a changed man.

Kurt took his place in the circle of chairs in the center of the Fellowship Hall. He had chosen the seat to the left of Ron. The others began to file into empty chairs. Ron opened up the meeting as he always did with his own description of the group’s purpose.

“Together we can harness the beast that is addiction.” He started in his gentle, yet theatrical tone. “It’s not always easy, but I’ve come to learn that there is strength in numbers…”

He continued to explain how many had been freed from their violent and angry pasts through this very program, and how self-discipline could accomplish anything. Next, the members of the group introduced themselves and gave a brief overview of their personal journeys starting with the man on Ron’s right.

Just as Kurt had difficulty opening up to his troubled peers so also did each of the others present. Their monologues were brief and usually consisted of their first names and the time that had elapsed since they had last drank.

“My name is Anthony. I’ve been working to stay sober for five months.”

“I’m Emily and today is one month since my last relapse.”

“I’m Collin. I’ve been trying really hard, but I broke down and drank with an old buddy this week.”

“Hello, I’m Carlos and I have been sober for two weeks.”

Kurt was last to speak in the circle. He stood to his feet when it was his turn to speak. With as much confidence as the poor man could muster he said, “My name is Kurt, and I have been twelve months sober today.”

All fiction writing on this site is originally written by TheAmeriBritMom. All rights to these pieces is reserved for the author. It is unlawful to reproduce or plagiarise this work.

My Epic Fails

Today has been one of those awful, bad-from-the-start kind of days.

I don’t like to complain and I do not condone negativity, but it’s been a day where everything has just turned out badly. Sometimes you just have to laugh and humor others with the series of epic fails that was your day. So, here is a look at today in the life of The Ameri Brit Mom:

I overslept. Isn’t this like indication #1 that your day is doomed to fail? I’m pretty sure I hit snooze ten times and most of those were in a state of unconsciousness. It’s normally not that difficult to get myself moving, but for some reason 5:30am came too soon for me today.

I had 10 minutes to prepare a stew. We are having a friend of my husband’s over for dinner tonight. I’ve mentioned before that I love my crockpot when it comes to weekday meals. So I had intentionally planned out last night how I would wake up early today and go through my morning routine with the addition of prepping a crockpot beef stew for tonight. Only, I didn’t plan on oversleeping. (The plan worked well in my head)

My daughter peed all over the kitchen floor. We are currently in the potty training stage in our family. As I was prepping the beef stew as quickly as possible, my chopping and tossing must have awoken my daughter. She came into the kitchen and stood beside me as I chopped away at the onions and potatoes. She was barely awake. I know the rules of potty training well and I am usually so adamant that she uses the toilet the minute she wakes up, but I was busy this morning and running behind schedule so I asked my daughter to wait until I was done cutting vegetables before we went to the potty. Almost on cue she released the dam which not only filled her diaper, covered her pajamas and feet, but also dampened the kitchen floor. (How she holds that much urine in her tiny bladder at all astounds me!)

I forgot my coffee. Friends, and viewers if you know anything about me at all you know that I am a bear without my coffee in the morning. Give me a warm cup of caffeine infused deliciousness and I can conquer all. But, forget the coffee on the kitchen table and I’m a big ball of forgotten tasks, exhaustion, and a downright bad mood. So, knowing these downfalls about myself and my own inability to function without first feeding this addiction I ran through the nearest McDonalds drive-thru on my way to school.

The McDonalds coffee was cold. Need I say more about how this is a mood-wrecker?

I witnessed a dog die on my way to work. As I drove the five minute commute to the school where I work I noticed that a couple of blocks ahead of me there was some kind of animal running in and out of the road. As I neared the animal I realized it was a dog. The owner was trying to coerce the large dog back into the house that it had so obviously escaped, but it was so darn excited to be free that it was refusing to comply. In the end, a poor driver who really was being very cautious not to hit the dog tried to go for it when the dog finally left the road. The dog must’ve thought the driver was trying to play a game and bounded right back out in the road and in front of the car. The driver tried to stop, but it was too late. He hit the dog. I watched the owner’s face as her dog was being hit and I saw the driver of the car pull over and stop. He comforted the dog owner apologetically, and from the body language I could decipher the owner did not seem to hold the driver responsible. But, I was bawling as I witnessed the whole thing. I was stopped along with other cars in the traffic jam that had been created. Rest in peace Freedom Runner (that’s what I named the dog…to myself)

I was late to work. Well, I wasn’t late in the sense that I missed the beginning of my first class, but I was late for me. The oversleeping, coffee stop, and dog fiasco put me behind my usual schedule. Luckily, my normal arrival time is much earlier than I HAVE to be at school. I just didn’t have as much time to mentally prepare myself before my classroom was overrun by teenagers.

All of this happened before 7:30 AM!!! (Be honest how many of you were even awake by that time?)

I say all of this to show that I am in no way perfect. Life is rough sometimes. I mess up sometimes and I don’t handle stress the best or healthiest way. But in the few short minutes between arriving in my classroom and welcoming my students to first period I took a moment and prayed to God. I gave this day to Him. I refused to let these annoying circumstances steal my joy. And…God came through. He changed my perspective and allowed me to have peace as I began my day. I even had one student ask, “Why are you so happy today?” Although I wish I could have answered that question with total transparency about my faith I know the rules in a public school. My response was instead another version of the full truth, “I have a lot to be thankful for.”

Don’t let life steal your joy. Be thankful for all the good things and FORGET about the bad!

Spring Break Roundup

As I reflect on my ten day respite otherwise known as Spring Break I have nothing but positive memories and priceless moments with my daughter in which to boast. Oftentimes I suffer from a little guilt about being a working mom. I hate missing time with my daughter and truthfully that longing for spending time with her is what drives me out the doors everyday as early as possible. I love my job, but I am first and foremost a mom and I strive to be the best mom I can be. Which requires time.

I do have to realize that part of being an awesome mom is also working to provide for my daughter along with my husband. If it weren’t for our paychecks there are many opportunities we’ve had that may never otherwise have happened. I’m thankful for my job in so many ways, but helping to provide a comfortable and fun life for my daughter is at the top of the list for reasons that I love my job.

This Spring Break I challenged myself to do some of the things I had neglected to do because my schedule had been too busy (especially during basketball season and my husband’s crazy schedule). So I want to dedicate today’s post to a quick round up of Spring Break 2015:

Monday 3/30- We painted canvases and accomplished several arts and craft projects.

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Tuesday 3/31- We visited the Columbus Zoo with a family from church.

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Wednesday 4/1- We visited a nearby lake and stopped in a historical candy shop where my daughter devoured her first true ice cream cone.

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Thursday 4/2- I made brunch for my sister (who just had her second child six weeks ago) and we had a play date.

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Friday 4/3- Daddy was off too! We had lunch at Harvest Moon Cafe which we had been wanting to try and visited a horse rescue.

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Saturday 4/4- We completed some home projects as a family and did some spring cleaning. We also enjoyed dinner with some friends in Columbus.

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Sunday 4/5- Easter! When our daughter woke up in the morning she awoke to a great indoor egg hunt. The Easter bunny had scattered her eggs and gifts all over the house and she had a blast finding each of the surprises. For months she’s been begging for a kitty cat bike helmet so that we will let her ride her bike outside and ride horses so she was absolutely thrilled that the Easter bunny fulfilled that request. We also spent the day at church and with family. It was exhausting, but fun!

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Monday 4/6- We had a slow morning recovering from Easter. Then, we got back into our regular Monday rhythm of visiting the local library. My daughter loves books and she and I have made it a habit to weekly take a trip to the local library. She loves to play in the kids section and today to cap off the final day of break we followed up our library escapade with a trip to a local coffee shop, Scioto Valley Coffee. I had a coupon and so my daughter’s smoothie was free.

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All in all my break with my daughter was a success. I loved every minute. It’s so much fun to watch her learn and experience things for the first time. She is so excited to be growing up and she has such a lovely and independent personality. Going back to work is going to be hard after all of the fun I’ve had over the past ten days, but 2:30pm will come soon enough and I’ll be back home to my amazing family. My hope is that I save my energy for the evenings a little better. I hate coming home exhausted because I feel like I miss out on moments like I’ve been having with my daughter. Motherhood is fun.

Enjoy your week :)

A Book Review: We Were Liars

The following is a book review by theameribritmom. This post expresses the genuine opinion and experiences of theameribritmom and is in no way endorsed by authors, publishers, and outside influences. 

photo credit: http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16143347-we-were-liars

Title: We Were Liars

Author: E. Lockhart

Publisher: Delacorte Press

Copyright Date: 2014

We Were Liars is a young adult novel that tells about the privileged and esteemed Sinclair family. The main character is Cadence Sinclair Eastman who is nearly 18. The Sinclair family fortune rests in Cadence’s grandfather, Harris Sinclair, and throughout the course of the novel Harris’ three daughters fight over the inheritance that they feel will be given out before long as their father’s dementia is settling in. Every summer the Sinclair families leave behind their big city, independent lives and move to Beechwood Island near Martha’s Vineyard. Beechwood Island is a private island whose only residents are the members of the Sinclair family. Harris has provided each daughter and her family with a mansion of their own on the island, although everyone knows the best home is his own home, The Clairmont.

Every summer Cadence spends time bonding with her cousins Johnny, Mirren, and her aunt’s step-nephew, Gat, and they call themselves The Liars. During the time on the island The Liars grow inseparable, but when summer is over they all live very separate lives.

Over Cadence’s fifteenth summer on the island something catastrophic happens. There is a horrible accident which leaves her with a severe case of amnesia. She spends the next two years in a fog haunted by migraines and missing pieces of the story that led to her injuries. Just before her eighteenth birthday Cadence begins to unravel the troubling details of her accident along with all of the family secrets that threaten to tear the Sinclair family apart.

In the end of the story Cadence finally remembers the tragic events that led to her injuries and all of the actions of her family members begin to make sense.

This story had a detailed plot and the characters were all very well developed. The author did a fantastic job giving each member of the Sinclair family a back story that contributed to the overall plot of the story and the reader’s understanding of life as a Sinclair. One thing that made this novel a little hard to follow was the fact that the story was told from Cadence’s perspective and since she was battling with amnesia a lot of the events were out of order. You really have to pay close attention to figure out the order of events which eventually come together in the climax of the book.

I’m not going to give anything away, but I will say that you will never ever guess the ending of this novel. As I read along and began to piece together the clues that Cadence revealed I had several ideas about what could have happened to her, but the truth never crossed my mind. The author did a good job at using red herrings and Cadence’s condition to keep you guessing and wanting to read more.

Overall, this was not one of my favorite books, but it was worth the read. I enjoyed the character development and plot twists, but would have liked to see the timing of events more clearly explained. I could see where many young readers may be deterred by this confusion. I get the reason behind the jumbled events, but I feel like even just giving a date and time at the beginning of each chapter (as a title) may have made this a little easier to follow and understand.

Feel free to give your feedback if you are reading or have read this book.

On to my next read, Where Things Come Back by John Corey Whaley

My Hope

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Easter.

What a hallowed day. This day is a celebration of life and the one who overcame death. At its very essence this day holds the promise of hope. Hope that if we believe and repent we may enter into the freedom that God has for us.

2 Corinthians 5:21- God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.

Luke 24:46-47- He told them, “This is what is written: The Christ will suffer and rise from the dead on the third day, and repentance and forgiveness of sins will be preached in his name to all nations beginning in Jerusalem.”

Personally, this Easter has followed the theme of hope. I already knew, but was reminded that having accepted Christ into my heart that I have that same power living in me. Jesus had victory over death. He was the only person in history who was able to defeat death. He was not limited by death, but rather used death as a means for saving humanity. With the reminder of this principle I am also reminded that I am more than a conqueror of all things through Christ. (Romans 8:37)

These ideas give me hope and if you have accepted Jesus you should be full of hope as well. Life is full of storms. We all face them. However, it is a great reminder to remember that no matter the circumstances we face that we have the power of the greatest conqueror on our side. I’ve been battling some of my own issues and even just this week I’d begun to lose hope in a solution for my circumstance. I never once lost belief in an all-powerful God, but I’d begun to lose hope in his willingness to see me through.

These verses and principles coupled with some wisdom from godly influences have helped me to realign my focus and thinking. I’m continuing to believe that God will intervene in my life to prove me a conqueror over my circumstances. He will do the same for you in your circumstance. His will for us may not always look the way we imagine it to, but God is always in the business of furthering His Kingdom. That is hope enough for me. I can trust and rely on the fact that whatever the reason God has for bringing me to a rough situation it is ultimately to further His Kingdom. I have faith that even the worst situation can be used to bring God glory. So…I’m rethinking my whining and waiting and instead choosing to focus on this HOPE. God will bring me through and He has a plan for everything.

It was so liberating to spend this beautiful holiday with this new perspective. I was able to play, laugh, speak and think a little freer. I was able to relax and enjoy friends and family as God intended me to. I was able to knock down the walls keeping me from total happiness and live in the victory of Jesus.

I hope you were able to experience this freedom today and will continue to. If you’ve never had an encounter with Jesus I’d love to chat with you more about how He could change your life the way He has changed mine and my family’s.

Happy Easter :)